The best advice I can give to someone is to enjoy your twenties because there are a lot of things you can do! Don’t waste your time, it won’t come back. Enjoy every moment, go out there, and have fun. Be sad, be happy, be angry, cry, laugh, learn everything you need from every experience. Live your life like tomorrow isn’t promised. Stop normalizing “caring about what others think”. At the end of the day, it’s just you and yourself. Their mindset doesn’t matter.
Be patient, because with patience you grow, heal and shine. If you find yourself at a dead point in your life, change it. Go out there, have fun, travel, stop making excuses, go for that job, go for that person. It doesn’t matter how many people hurt you, don’t lose your hope because there will always be someone who loves you just the way you are. Find these people, they are precious, they accept you for who you are.
Stop making excuses, move on, “it is what it is”, evolve, find yourself, do exactly what you LOVE, not what YOUR FAMILY love. You have your own life and not so much time, make it count! Be educated, educate yourself every day, put a brick every day, and build the best version of yourself. Start now, little by little, so one day you’ll be more than proud because you have such a great experience and mindest.
1-HARDEST PILL TO SWALLOW IN YOUR TWENTIES: YOU’RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO GET THE CLOSURE YOU THINK YOU DESERVE
You may want them, but you don’t need them. It’s frustrating; you wanted to make it work, but that connection wasn’t lost without a reason. No one who’s meant to be in your life will leave. They may be lost in their way, but they won’t leave. They will always be there. So, if you lost the contact, keep it lost. You learned something from them, take these lessons with you for the rest of your life.
Don’t settle for less and stop being flattered by the bare minimum. Think about you. You deserve the same efforts you may put into a relationship. If you love someone, but they won’t work for the relationship, they won’t do the same things as you, they don’t have the same energy, let them go. You deserve so much more. You deserve the same energy. It’s hard and scary to let go, but if they are not willing to do any effort to keep you, set them free. They won’t let you go, so you’ll have to.
You have to make room for someone who treats you better. You see, there is someone and you will meet this person when you are not looking. When you are sick of being let down by people you cared, of trying, of trusting, they will come. So don’t lose hope and don’t settle for less.
Don’t hate them, you learned your worth so next time, you’ll choose wisely. It happened for a reason and yes may suffer for a while but it’s for the best. You’ll understand this only after a while when someone else will make you understand why that person left you. Exactly, to make room for what you deserve! Be thankful, not frustrated, your time will come soon.
2-YOU HAVE TO LEARN THESE THINGS THE HARD WAY: SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT SOMETHING FOR WHAT IT IS AND MOVE ON
You are the one in control and at the same time, you are not. You can control your feelings, you can allow people in your life and allow them to hurt you many times. But also, you are the one who can stop them, who can change things. If you are not happy, change something, little by little.
Think, meditate, heal, deal with your problems. People come into your life for a reason, moments happen for a reason, you can’t control these things. You can control the circumstances. So if you will allow them to hurt you, you should know that you also have the power to stop them.
If they leave, if you didn’t get that dream job, if you didn’t pass that exam, if a bad day happened, if anything happened, good or bad, it happened for a reason. Learn from it and stop overthinking about it. Free yourself, try to be calmer, and calculate and move on. Accept it, face it, learn from it and move on. So, next time, you won’t be hurt and disappointed. You’ll get that job, you’ll find that person, you’ll be happy. Work for it, move one and learn all the lessons to become a better version of yourself.
3-STOP STRESSING OVER THING YOU CAN’T CONTROL
You’re young, your life just started, you have enough time for relationships. Even for jobs, education. Work every day, educate yourself more and more, meet new people, try new things, travel. Do what you love, learn things from anywhere and from anyone. Go for the things you enjoy, do what you want with love and passion.
Start to work now, so later you’ll be thankful. Eat healthily and do sport, go to sleep when you are tired because no job and no exam is worth losing your mind. Stop stressing from this age, later you’ll be suffering. You are young, go and have fun and live your life, but at the same time be responsible, independent, and hard-working! Work for yourself and one day you’ll be your own boss!