Vulnerability and its core. Ever since we were little, it taught us that being vulnerable is wrong, that we need to be strong all the time, and that there is no place for a mistake, for failure, for not being okay. But is it true? Does the fact of being vulnerable, of showing your weaknesses, of being human is the worse thing that can happen to you? How many times have you cried and someone came to you and said: `No, don’t cry, everything is alright.`? We can learn to accept our vulnerability.
Being vulnerable makes you more authentic.
How many times did you walk away from someone for fear that you upset them if you said all that is on your mind? By saying out loud your problems, you half resolve them. People must hear your perspective and what troubles you. How do you want to resolve a problem if you don’t enunciate it?
First, accept being vulnerable to yourself. You probably were taught that vulnerability is no place of development, but weakness. Let me tell you something, to be vulnerable is to be strong. Admitting your problems towards someone does not mean you are venting; it means you accept the problem, to resolve it. Human relationships need more authenticity. We are not perfect; we have doubts; we follow patterns from our childhood, and we need to put them into words so that our close ones can see us and help us better.
Asking for help is not a weakness.
With asking for help, you might think that admitting your need is accepting you are weak, that you failed, or that you are bad on your own. But sharing your obstacles means the strength to lighten your burden, to allow someone else to help you. Asking for help makes you more human because it is in human nature to make mistakes. Weakness is part of you, and there is no harm in showing this part to your close ones.
People will not give you more than they can.
I often feel that I ask for too much, that I am too hard to handle. But people will never give you more than they really can. Take the courage to ask for support, because your loved ones can’t help you unless they know what you have been going through. No one will struggle to help you unless they want to do that.
And if you don’t receive the help you asked for, you at least expressed your vulnerability, a thing that helped you too. People don’t go through the same things. To help someone, you need to be in a position from where you can help.
I have been vulnerable ever since I was little, and even if some people may see my vulnerability as a little too transparent, I did what you best for me because it is hard not to share your burdens. We need other people. Solidarity wins over solitary.