Is your ego bad? Well, there is a fine line between a healthy ego and an inflated ego and psychology says a big ego is often a weak ego. And your ego is your enemy. Big ego creates a sense of unhealthy belief in our own importance and people having a big ego often cannot see the difference between the right and the wrong. In spirituality, there is this idea that your ego is your enemy and it is not beneficial at all, but joking around, you’re right but let me explain you why you’re wrong.
Everybody is afraid of failure, for example. A healthy ego is critical to overcoming those self-doubts, as well as the doubts of others. You have to learn to turn your ego into a beneficial one because this fear of failure can keep you from doing what you love and when your future reflects your fears, instead of you hopes, you start to get bitter. Your ego has to be balanced with true wisdom, emotional nourishment, and practical values.
According to Freud’s psychoanalytic theory, the id is the primitive and instinctual part of the mind that contains sexual and aggressive drives and hidden memories, the super-ego operates as a moral conscience and the ego is the realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego.
The healthy ego
I think there’s ego in anything, even in love because when you break up with someone, for example, you’re thinking about the memories that you have with that person and how that person made you feel. In a nutshell, you make that pretty much about yourself. A lot of people confuse the ego with the idea of self-worth or self-esteem. You shouldn’t let someone humiliate you and so on because you decided ‘to starve your ego’.
We need ego to succeed. When someone gets used with being humiliated, something changes. That person starts to think that’s how life is and it’s normal to be put down. Well, it isn’t. Personally, I want to teach English and I need my ego. I need to believe that these kids should listen to me and pay attention because I deserve to be listened. That’s healthy. I need to use my ego in order to avoid a panic attack, basically. So, I would say that you shouldn’t kill your ego because that motherfucker helps you. Stay accountable, starve it, but don’t kill it! Be sure that people who say that they have no ego are lying to themselves.
The inflated ego
“Ego” as per dictionary means perception of self in relation to outside. As per theory of famous psychologist Sigmund Freud, it is a component of the mind with which one relates to others. People with inflated ego are absorbed by their grandiosity, they look down on others with an air of superiority. They are convinced that their own beliefs are true, and, people who disagree are wrong. Their attributions about other people tend to vacillate between the very positive and very negative.
Truth be told, thinking that everyone is stupid except you is a comforting thought because at the end of the day, any sign of unhappiness is based on a comparison. So, believing you’re the best of the best helps. People with huge egos are usually people with very little going on for them on the inside, they are shallow, narrow-minded, selfish, petty and have no clue as to what it means to be real. To feel good about themselves, they put others down and brag about their accomplishments. They have no self-esteem, so they find it necessary to act big and proud. They are sad individuals.
