When it comes to social interaction, you may think you are an expert. After all, we are all social beings and our lives are centered around our social relationships. However, we often need to be reminded about three essential principles that we should follow in order to easily build solid relationships. Those valuable tips are discovered by psychologists and are renowned for their benefits in concrete social cases.
Social interaction and judging others
Social interaction is based on mutual understanding. Therefore, criticizing other people will never be useful in social situations, since it won’t help them correct their errors nor make them behave differently. Criticizing can be dangerous for some people’s health, as it can affect their self-confidence and it often makes them hold a grudge against others. Before judging someone for their actions, you should think about whether you would like to be judged by others. If you don’t like being judged, then don’t do it yourself.
Also, you need to look at yourself first, and then complain about the others. We all have our flaws, but judging each other will never help us grow. The best way to avoid useless critique is by trying to understand why people act the way they do and acknowledging that your words may be harmful.
Show people your honest appreciation
People can be motivated to take action only if they are appreciated, and not judged or criticized. One of the basic needs of human beings is their feeling of importance and appreciation. Our parents, partners, colleagues, even the least important workers in a factory need to be seen, heard, and valued, and a simple greeting or “Have a good day” can make one’s day.
Moreover, people are more motivated to work when they feel their work is valued, in which case they will be more productive. In concrete social interaction cases, it is important to show an honest appreciation for people’s qualities, achievements, or ideas and they will always remember your kind words. The kind words of appreciation must be sincere, not just fake flattery to gain someone’s attention because sincerity is one of the most important values in any type of relationship. Thanks to your kindness, you can build relationships by sincerely appreciating others and showing it to them.
Arouse people’s interest
You can influence other people by talking about what they want. People are concerned with their own life and problems more than anything else. If you want to arouse their interest and create a social bond with them, you should focus on what they want. For example, if you are writing a motivation letter for a job interview, you can focus on the company’s needs and say how the company will benefit from your experience and skills. In this way, you will have more chances to be hired.
Similarly, if you are an agent who wishes to sell his product, you have to find what can motivate people to buy the product, focus on their needs and show them how they can benefit from the product. In any situation, you just have to pay attention to people’s needs and show them how they can satisfy those needs.
Remember that everybody has his own little universe and that they may have problems that are not visible at the surface. For this reason, you should not judge them, but understand them, show them your appreciation if you can, and arouse their interest by showing them how they can fulfill their wishes. You will improve your social interaction skills and easily make new relationships if you remember the three essential principles.