It’s hard to see the truth when love covers your eyes but this way, you risk being played in a relationship. Sometimes, they don’t love you for the real you, in their head, it’s just the idea that you’re a good person and they can’t stand the idea of you loving someone else the same way you used to love them some time ago. This is why you should choose your happiness over them, over history, over toxicity.
YOU’VE BEEN PLAYED IF THEY SAY THINGS LIKE “I’M SORRY YOU FEEL THIS WAY”
Besides the fact that it’s very toxic from someone and you should try to avoid this type of person, it’s a red flag you should not ignore from the very beginning. If they say things like this, if they continue to say similar things and act like this, darling, they are not willing to offer you the world.
Because yes, a good heart like yours deserves the world. They don’t even think to commit, to treat you better, they don’t actually care about your feelings and they are more than ok to hurt you. Maybe they didn’t even notice that they were hurting you in the first place and this fact says a lot!
YOU’VE BEEN PLAYED IF THEIR LAST WORDS WERE “I NEED A BREAK TO FOCUS ON ME”
Darling, respect yourself enough to not believe in this stupid concept as “a break from the relationship” because there is no such thing. It’s heartbreaking. You’re breaking your own heart if you allow this or if you initiate it. If the fails, then it wasn’t love, and let them go. A break won’t solve anything, it will just force you to stop evolving and to remain in a dead place.
They can focus on themselves in a relationship too, they can evolve as humans, they can work, they can be happy by themselves in a relationship, too. A break’s just selfish. With the right person, you don’t need breaks because you can focus on yourself while you are in a relationship.
- “I WASN’T READY FOR THIS” “I DON’T KNOW WHAT I WANT RIGHT NOW”
So immature! Don’t even think of giving them another chance or reconsidering the idea that “maybe this time it will be better”. Forget about them, move on because they are clearly not your people. It’s so toxic I can’t even describe it. This is how you get played. They just make you lose your precious time. A time when you could’ve done so many amazing things. Like traveling, learning, doing sports, anything that could’ve helped you and your well-being.
- “I ONLY WANT WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU” AND OF COURSE THE BEST CLICHE IN THE WORLD, “RIGHT PERSON WRONG TIME”
If they really mean it, then they would be “the best for you”. A person who knows you deserve better but is not willing to be better for you, then that person doesn’t deserve you and of course, played you. They are more than aware of the fact that they are doing things wrong. They are hurting you and they know you. You are been played and you don’t even realize.
But how can we forget about the “right person wrong time”? Don’t be silly and try to see things as they really are. There is no such thing as “right person wrong time”. This is just an excuse, a motive, it’s just a losing game. You are wasting time and fooling yourself and by this, you break your own heart. You expect the impossible from the wrong person. It was the right time and it didn’t work.
It failed, and you should know that real love never fails and if it indeed failed, then it wasn’t love. Accept the reality, stop according to numerous chances to a person just because it was the wrong time, just because they left you because they “need to solve things”. I respect that, I respect someone who acknowledges his issues. But if you don’t want to evolve together, then let me free, let me go, and focus on myself.
Don’t come back when you finish, when you’ve already moved on with other people “focusing on yourself” and expecting me to welcome you back in my life. I believe that out there, serious people exist, people with good intentions that don’t leave you questioning yourself. People really need to focus on themselves, but still, if you feel this need while you are in a relationship, then it’s not the one.
That person, it’s not the one. If they were, you would have done it with them. You would have evolved together. So if you feel the need to be alone and focus on yourself and you are in a relationship, that let that person go and don’t come back if you aren’t sure or if you‘re not serious. No one deserves this kind of treatment.