What we know about ourselves may change in the blink of an eye. Reality is very subjective and what feels real for someone else cannot be the same for me or you. Reality can also change in an instant. It depends on your perspective whether you get lost or you find your way in the chaos that we call life. The key is to remain anchored in the present and gather the odds in your favour. When was the last time you lived in the moment?
Breathe in, breathe out
Take everything in life with a pinch of salt. Every time you feel like you are not present, remember to breathe. Either physically or mentally. Take a deep breath and try to understand what you are doing that makes you feel numb. Train your mind to stay focused on key moments and visualise yourself from the outside. Picture a scenario in which you are looking at yourself with other eyes from time to time as if you were standing next to you. How do you feel? Are you happy? Are you aware of what is happening around you?
Give yourself time to think and observe. Detach from everything that feels overwhelming. Try and develop a clear, even critical mindset about who you are (or who you want to be) and what makes you feel alive and present at the moment. Focus on the average speed, not the maximum. Not everyone has the same rhythm.
We project what we think
Have you ever heard that you attract what you think? Well, the law of attraction may work in mysterious ways. Reality is only our perception of what we make out of it. We have the power to build up our own path and perceptions. With such power in our hands, what stops us from being what we want to be or from feeling however we want to feel? Live authentically! You are not expected to live up to someone else’s standards. Wouldn’t it be a waste to spend your life chasing what someone else says you should want instead of doing what’s right for you? So create a reality that feels real for you, not for someone else, do what makes you feel deeply anchored in the present.
What is actually real?
As you already know, reality is very subjective. What is actually real? A hug from a loved one, the smell of your favourite perfume, fresh air in the morning. I guess it’s the little things that make you get out of bed to live, not just to feel alive. Whenever everything around you feels artificial, in the sense that you are not enjoying anything, ask yourself why. What stays between you and living your life to the fullest? Think, meditate, create! Create your perfect reality!
Life is just a series of events that keep us going. It’s up to us whether we make choices in our favour or not. But every time you feel anxious in your own skin, think about this: are you alive, or are you just living?