When they hear about long-distance relationships, many people turn up their nose. The common belief is that they don’t last. Sure, no one says it’s going to be easy. Sometimes your family and friends won’t be supportive. Other times you will get a little bit sad and lonely. Long-distance makes some things hard to achieve.
However, the extra distance makes the simplest things, the sweetest. Being able to touch one another, hold hands, go for a walk, cook dinner together. Everything will become more valuable when you see each other after some time apart. The myths about long-distance relationships are scarier than reality, so don’t focus on them!
The more you communicate, the better the relationships
Even though communication is key in every relationship, this does not always work. You have to give your significant other their personal time. Many people think that they have to do more to compensate for the distance. But this is not true. You shouldn’t be over-possessive or talk to that person 24/7. This might even get exhausting and you’ll get even easier bored with each other. Remember: less is more even in communication. Focus on quality, not on quantity.
You can do things together even at a long-distance
Being far apart may restrict some activities, but thanks to technology, there are plenty of things that can keep you close to each other. Call each other at night before you go to sleep, or take turns in calling each other in the morning to wake each other up. Don’t be afraid to video call! Play an online game, sing to each other, watch a movie at the same time.
You can study or read together while seeing each other, cook or just talk. If you are not in the same room, it doesn’t mean that you cannot do things together. You can also do nice things for your partner. Write a letter, make a video, a card, write a poem or paint something for them. The possibilities are endless.
Look beyond technology, that’s just myths
It’s true that without the technology we have nowadays, we wouldn’t be able to communicate with each other as much. And you wouldn’t fancy waiting three or four days for a letter to arrive, would you? Well, thanks to Zoom and WhatsApp, our loved ones are just one click away. However, this may not be enough. It always helps to have something palpable around you. Something you can actually feel, such as their shirt, a piece of jewelry, or anything that can remind you of their presence.
Don’t over plan your next meeting
I’m sure everyone wants to know the next time they will see their beloved one as soon as possible. But, see, this doesn’t really work with any other relationships. Sometimes it is better to let things cool down for a little bit. It’s important to know to enjoy your time both together and apart. Sometimes planning too far ahead can hurt your own expectations, as things might inevitably change. Plan a few days ahead and don’t revolve everything around your next meeting. You have to learn how to make it work even when you are around each other and make each other happy even from a distance.
There are a lot of myths about dating at a long distance. But at the end of the day, what matters is that both of you are happy. If you love each other and you remain faithful, everything will work out in the end. Remember: if there’s a will, there’s a way! And if you fight for it, your relationships will work!
What is your love story?