“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,And sorry I could not travel bothAnd be one traveler, long I stoodAnd looked down one as far as I couldTo where it bent in the undergrowth”(The Road Not Taken, Robert Frost)
Make a decision but go with the flow as well
The worst thing that you could do when it comes to making a choice is overthinking your opportunities. Why? You will start to have a lot of doubts and most probably you will forget about what your heart tells you. You will let fear win. That’s not ok. What I suggest is to take your time, write down the pros and cons and let your heart decide for you. Also, take the highway to success because people who are comfortable are not happy and remember that who follows the flock goes to the slaughterhouse. You want to make your own decisions and write your own rules. You don’t want to live somebody else’s life, honey!
Obviously, if you want to ask for a piece of advice, do that! What I’m trying to say is that people might be toxic and dictate your decision and personally, I don’t want that in my life ever! But yes, sure, it’s ok to gather informations and then take action and make your decision. Just be sure you’re asking someone who could actually help you.
Thus, all you have to do is to be honest with yourself because we all have that inner voice that lets us know what we really want. When faced with a tough decision it’s common to feel overwhelmed, stressed or anxious, wound up, pressured, confused, distracted or tired. Nobody said it was easy, but you can make it out alive.
William Shakespeare once said, “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” Basically, that means doubt makes us quit. Self-doubt means that you’re holding yourself back. It arises from the fear of making a mistake, but mistakes are how we grow and improve our own abilities. Just make a decision, you are totally capable of doing anything you want to do!
Don’t forget the golden rule! I can’t stress this enough but never make a decision when you are stressed out because you lack clarity. Also, trust your gut and do not compromise. You should take your emotions into account as part of your decision-making process, but you shouldn’t let your emotions cloud your judgment in a way that causes you to make bad decisions. Obviously, it depends on the situation.
I know that this article basically told you to listen to your heart and that’s not a good advice for someone who doesn’t do that, for example. It’s like telling someone who’s angry to calm down. It seems impossible, but I am really happy with my decisions and that’s what I’ve done basically. You have to know what are your goals and follow that path. That’s a responsability that you have towards your soul. You don’t want to get old and be a grumpy old man and traumatize people around you just because you are not happy with your life.
There are two main ways to minimize regret toward the decisions that you make. The first is to make decisions in a way that minimizes the likelihood of future regret, and the second is to change the way you view your decisions after you’ve made them.