We all know the difference between being glad and experiencing happiness. One is temporary, the other one is “permanent”. What I want you to ask yourself is: what is more relevant: happiness or being glad? It can be a little confusing and difficult to answer. And, of course, it all depends on you, the reader, on every individual. Since it’s a rather tough question, I would like to share with you, my reader, my choice, reasoning and explanations regarding this matter. So, shall we dive in straight into the subject?
Happiness or being glad
Happiness is the ideal; you are feeling content and good about everything, anytime and every time. It’s amazing and the preferable choice. Happiness is not real though. I’m not talking about the feeling, but the permanent state of it. This is where “being glad” takes the lead. Notice not only the word “glad”, which is not a permanent state, but the verb as well. “Being”. The progressive aspect of the verb denotes its temporariness. And although it is not the ideal choice, “being glad” is far more realistic, attainable and present in our lives.
The ideal sounds good, but is not real. No human will always be happy. Every human will encounter sadness, obstacles, difficulties and won’t reach the ideal, no matter how hard they will try. It sounds a little bit gloomy and pessimistic, yet allow me to explain.
Would you give up reality for the ideal?
Just like the romantics, who would fantasize about the perfect world, perfect life and perfect love, the goal of happiness is far from reality. Instead, thinking realistically, considering that life does not represent a smooth line would be the best option available. What is even more important, besides losing the sense of reality, is the sudden lack of “flavor” and diversity. Indeed, being in a constant cycle of sadness and stress is not favorable, but when you have only one emotion, state, feeling, things become tasteless. You wouldn’t feel that impact whenever you feel glad after a bad period.
And you might not realize it, but if you were constantly happy you wouldn’t meet so many opportunities to improve yourself, to meet new people, to expand your horizon and knowledge. You’d take for granted everything. This is one of the reasons why a lot of children who grow up with a sliver spoon in their mouths end up doing reckless things. They did not have the chance to overcome a bad situation and feel glad afterwards.
Should you be happy because of the small things?
Well, yes and no. It depends, because you won’t be able to find a good side to every single bad thing and trying to do so is not only impossible, but harmful as well. Yes, you should feel glad because of trivial things, however, you cannot do that all the time. And maybe some of my readers would think: what about optimistic people? Well, they are not happy all the time, they don’t find good in everything they encounter. Being optimistic and thinking that you are happy all the time are two different things.
In a lot of cases, the period of “malice” in one’s life might seem to last way longer than the period of “happiness”, or better said, of being glad. However, in the majority of these cases, people tend to focus on the negative aspect of their lives and forget to be grateful of what they accomplish. After all, time is relative. And what all of us should remember is that everything is ephemeral. Nothing will last forever, thus permanent happiness is nothing more than just an ideal. In the end, would you miss everything that is happening around you for an ideal?