Things might get a little fuzzy sometimes, but you should never let your happiness depends on others. Yes, you may be lost, you may be scared, but you got this. You are the one responsible for your actions and thoughts. At the end of the day, it’s just you and yourself. It’s a difference between being happy with someone and depending on them to be happy by yourself. You should be happy alone, by yourself, you should be on terms with your own.
Not a single relationship with another human being will work if you keep thinking that they sho9uld make you happy in the first place. No, you are in charge of that. Regarding the others, if they make you happy, you should make them happy too. But how can you do that if you are not happy by yourself? Solve your own problems before getting into interaction or relationship with another human. One day, they may leave and if they leave they will take with them parts of you you’ll hardly replace. Because you let your happiness depend on someone else.
YOU’LL BECAME TOXIC AND DESPERATE AND THE OTHERS WILL RUN AWAY
It is what it is, it happens. Rather we like it or not, we all become toxic at some point. After a while in a relationship, it doesn’t matter if it’s a lover or a friend, after a while, things get complicated and toxic. Toxic is when you let the influence of your whole being. Your attitude, your feelings, your thoughts, your opinions.
Maybe that’s the reason why the relationships didn’t work out. Maybe this is why some of them walked away without any reason or explanation. Because you let them. Because you needed them. I learned the hard way that you should not need them. You can love them with all your heart, but you don’t need them. They can leave whenever they want. Anyone would leave if their s/o is so needy (in a way that nothing pleases them anymore, all they want is attention).
Remember: you don’t need them. You can survive without them. You have your own thoughts and feelings, stop being influenced by others. You’ll go mad and crazy and you’ll think it’s normal to expect them to understand you the same you do. We are all different in our ways, you’ll never receive the same energy and effort.
You should look for someone close to this, who’s willing to offer you the things you need but don’t force them. You can make someone be the right person for you. If they want to, they will be the right person and they will offer you the things you deserve. But don’t force things.
YOUR HAPPINESS OVER THEIR ATTENTION OR… YOU’LL LOSE THEM AND YOURSELF
Once you let them in, let them do whatever they want with your heart, it’s hard to put yourself together again. If you keep depending on them, you’ll lose yourself. For example, I lost myself when I expected my friend to do the same things I would do for her. Every day I get frustrated and frustrated because she didn’t want to put any effort into our friendship.
So I was the one who put effort more and every day, expecting she will do the same for me. She never did. She was comfortable because I was doing everything. I was happy putting effort but so frustrated by the fact that she wasn’t offering me the same things.
One day I went mad and since then I learned that not everyone will offer you the same things you’d offer. Do the things that make you happy and don’t expect others to do them for you. You can do it by yourself.
DAY BY DAY YOU’LL JUST BE MORE UNHAPPY AND YOU’LL LOSE YOUR SPARKLE
It’s true. Little by little you’ll lose your smile. You won’t be the same person anymore. Because you are stuck in a dead place. They left with part of you and I have told you this before, it’s hard to replace them. You are exhausted. You wouldn’t be exhausted if you had your own things solved. You enjoy your own presence, love yourself, go on dates alone, dress up, go take pictures, go out alone, fog or a walk.
You don’t anyone because are good on your own. If it’s not too late, try to not lose your sparkle. Find your happiness in the things you love and stop overthinking about them. YOU LOSE PRECIOUS TIME. GO AND LIVE YOUR LIFE AND CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS. YOU DON’T NEED THEM.