Music has played an important part in my life since I was little. I loved listening to music and identifying myself with it. Listening to both the music and the lyrics was an amazing experience for me. But guess what? I loved music so much that I wanted to “make” it myself. So, a few years ago, I started playing bass guitar. I was so motivated to improve myself and to be very good with the instrument, that I pushed myself to be better all the time: I was always learning songs and practicing. Well, my world took an unexpected turn when I was asked if I wanted to join a band. Sure! Who would say no? Even though it wasn’t a long-lived experience, because I had to go to University, it was one of the best things that happened to me.
Overall, it was probably one of the coolest experiences in my life. I played in front of crowds, I had both big and small gigs and I gave everything I could when it came to all of them.
I got along with my bandmates and we were talking even outside of rehearsals. Usually, we saw eye to eye and had the same vision, which was super important to me.
The first gig was a complete disaster, because the sound was crappy and no one could hear anything. Since then, we learned our lesson and we started improving. We practiced every week and practice was like a stress reliever to me. School, exams and uni admittance were stressing me out and I escaped those for 2 hours a week. It’s like everything has fallen into place for 2 hours straight and it was the best feeling.
Our last ever gig was also the biggest one. It was a dream come true, for which we practiced a lot.
Sometimes, I feel bad because I’m one of the main reasons we disbanded, but, at the same time, everything happens for a reason. I’m still on good terms with everyone and maybe we can resume playing sometime.
Its impact on me
You may think that I’m overreacting, but this has had a huge impact on me. It’s like a group project where every member of the band does his/her part. We pick songs and then everyone learns. This has made me more responsible and made me focus more on what I had to do. Moreover, this improved my performance music-wise (obviously) and I felt like what I did was relevant.
Aside the music-wise effect, this has also improved my social interactions, because I met a lot of new people through this passion. I felt more sociable and extroverted, while improving my decision-making skills and doing what I love. What can be better than that?
Before that, I had problems with the stage. I couldn’t really express myself in a larger crowd and I was scared that I might ruin everything. But I’ve never felt more myself anywhere else. It was like the stage was my home.
How we handled conflicts
Obviously, in any group, there are going to be conflicts, arguments and misunderstandings. It’s impossible to see each other eye to eye all the time. For example, one of us didn’t like a certain song, someone forgot to practice and everything was a mess, stuff like that. But I think it was important for us to understand one another, because this was a passion, not our full time job. Even though we had problems from time to time, communication was the key! It’s important to voice things up in a polite manner. Bottling them up or yelling isn’t going to cut it, because these aren’t going to help in the long run.
Keep in mind that healthy communication will help in any given situation. A band is like a second family, if you ask me. You should be able to get along and to solve conflicts. If things won’t get better, you can easily leave. It’s not a big deal. If you feel restricted or if your visions have changed, it’s okay to leave.
If you want to join a band, go for it! It will have a huge impact on you and you will considerably improve your skills. And, who knows, maybe you will make some friends along the way! And, if things don’t work out, you can easily talk about them and sort things out for the best.