Decisions: why is it so hard to make them


Decisions are a mental activity in which each of us engages daily. From deciding when to wake up, what to eat, how to spend our day, where to spend our money, with whom to spend our time… decisions are part of our daily lives.

We make about 35,000 decisions every day. They can be simple or more complicated, they can be taken quickly or more slowly, they can have a small or big influence in everyone’s life.

When it comes to decisions, there are three major approaches:

  1. Some people make an extremely quick decision for two reasons: 1. They don’t want the mind to intervene, they don’t want to go into analysis, re-analysis… because they feel that this throws them into a whirlwind of worries and that dries them up of energy and 2. He prefers to make a wrong choice than to be indecisive, because he prefers to feel regret, instead of panic.
  2. At the opposite pole are those who fail to do almost anything because they can not decide and postpone the election indefinitely. You don’t know if you want to go fishing on the weekend with friends or colleagues in the mountains, so you keep thinking until you realize it’s already too late, so you don’t have room in the car or accommodation. Usually this expectation of making a decision turns into avoidance. Long-term avoidance turns into suffering.
  3. In the middle are those who ask everyone how they should proceed, what should be done, look for case studies, try to find the perfect answer in magazines, books… It seems to them that it is a lesser responsibility in case it fails , as long as as many people advised the same thing. It is an attempt to “delegate” responsibility, not to feel unworthy, incompetent or even stupid (in your eyes or someone else’s). Even if you consult with a lot of people (which is a good thing in some cases) don’t make decisions based on their opinion.

How to make decisions easier

  • Say goodbye to perfectionism

If you tend to be a perfectionist, get rid of this habit in the decision-making process. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t gather information at all. However, this does not mean that you should wait until you have 100% of the information you need. That just delays the process. You end up postponing the decision and in the worst case you don’t take any at all.

  • Don’t let decisions depend on experts

The opinion of experts is certainly important. However, if you consult too many experts, you will find a lot of different opinions. This, in turn, will delay your final decision, because in the end, you want to avoid making any mistakes.

In the end, you have to make the decision and trust the opinion of an expert. So, consider how it could affect you if it’s the wrong decision. What happens if you postpone the decision? Often, the consequences of making the wrong decision are not as bad as wasting time or postponing it.

  • Don’t be afraid of the wrong decisions

We each make mistakes so many times, remember that. Worse than making the wrong decision is not making any, for fear of making a mistake. People who like to make decisions are always more successful in the long run than those who don’t make a decision at all – even if it means making the wrong decision from time to time.

  • Focus on the solutions

When your focus is on finding the best solution, then both the conscious and the subconscious mind will work together to find the best solution. Did it happen to you to wake up with the solution in mind to a problem you were facing?… Well that means that the mind continued to work even in sleep.


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