I was asked to talk about the problem of otherness, more precisely the problem of communication with you.
To talk about it through the eyes of a 21st century teenager.
As the 21st century began, an explosion of technology began to overwhelm society. As a chain reaction, a certain typology of nostalgic people was noticed-the one who dream about the eternal superior quality of everything there was in the past.
The problem raised by them exclusively concerned the dehumanization of man directly proportional to the technologization of his life. That through the easing and modernization of the lifestyle, human’s fundamental qualities are lost.
Communication through the Internet was the victim of this general conception and it was accused at once with the main exponent of the future, the mobile phone.
You are not a pattern of the 21st century teen if you do not have a smartphone. A new feature we, the “unhappy” who can no longer taste the simple joys of life and who are depressed or suicidal precisely because of the phones, own is misunderstanding. I think I’m not wrong when I say that any teenager nowadays. Is not part of a conservative family or with a poor financial situation, has tasted the experience of having friends on the internet. Those friends or “strangers” whom you talk to through social networks, even though you never met them.
I think I’m not wrong when I say that most of us have been labeled by our parents as easy victims of undercover pedophiles or unrealists.
They don’t understand that they have to be pleased with the people around them.
It is true, the less favorable cases of this communication arent non-existent. Sometimes even leading to suicide or crime. Some people can manipulate young souls who break into the danger of the Internet.
One such example would be the “Blue Whale” phenomenon some years ago. I am not going to deny that the internet can be a dangerous place. Anyone can become everything behind a computer and, not being disturbed by the image of the other. In Lévinas’s conception awakened the impulse of empathy, not to do harm. We can become more impersonal, more immune to the suffering of the other.
There are also cases of aggression on the Internet or identity theft.
Starting from this premise, that the Internet can become such a harmful and impersonal place, the question arises: can we still think about a communication authenticity? A real face-to-face dialogue? Or does the amount of information that mobile phones have given us exceed the quality?
From my experience as a teenager, I can say that the idea of communication is not even the same through social networks.
It is not necessarily inauthentic
Behind one screen, deprived of the disturbing presence of the other, which is the “fire happening of my existence,” the man may lose the idea of empathy. Many constraints, perhaps the beneficial ones, that apply in face to face communication may disappear. The man is no longer embarrassed to say certain things. He no longer feels the guilt of some statements or the shame of making disrespectful statements
He loses the responsibility for the things he says.
As a result, he is endowed with the lifting power of the gumption. Anyone on the Internet believes themself an omniscient. Anyone on the Internet is an expert and, if you still worry that future generations are illiterate, stay careless. On the Internet anyone can express their opinion in the most intimidating words.
To summarize, I will use a Facebook friend’s post who says that on the internet, everyone has a Gyges ring, which makes him invisible.
Not having some eyes to look at you, some eyes to look into, you can feel ignorant of any unhappiness you bring.
This explains why the man, on the Internet, becomes a follower of the scam, the harassment or the wrongdoing.
Because he does not see the consequences of his actions directly. He feels irresponsible towards them. Also, the communication on the Internet was also criticized for losing the essence of communication in general.
Being free to send any messages almost instantaneously, we do not think twice before writing something.
We do not value words so much because we do not wait, as another time, weeks after letters.
Although all the listed above defects of the social networks are substantiated. I ask a question, can people manifest themselves in such a horrible way in real life? Aren’t people “experts in anything” almost at all? Do people really feel the need to do wrong and harass someone only when they are hidden on the Internet?
Isn’t the defect of talking too much and pointless found in real life too?
As a teenager, as a person who lives through socialization and the telephone, (not to be confused with “I cannot live without my phone”), I consider that the shortcomings of the Internet. The use of inhumanity that is sometimes practiced through it, are the effects of psychopathic, stupid people.
A true man, with a fundamental sense of morality, will never be a person who will harass or deceive someone. Whether on the Internet or not!
Communication on the Internet for me is not the image of inauthenticity, on the contrary. Being engaged in a conversation with someone where the physical presence is non-existent. You become deprived of the judgment patterns of a person’s body or lack of the constraints that a face-to-face first talk would have.
On the Internet, through a social network, the only thing that matters is the mind and the way of thinking.
Without other impediments involved in the inner knowledge, the one who engages in such a conversation has access only to the most important part of a person, namely the essence of personality.
Those who are against Internet communication will probably say that the image of the personality made on the Internet is illusory. We are connected to our body, and it becomes part of our personality.
I will not contradict them
Our body, gestures, appearance define quite the way we are, but nothing compares to the infinite sensation of talking to someone. Always at late hours, not caring about your body, the cage that binds your soul. A feeling in which you feel unlimited. Knowing a person only through his personality, and not through his body is a unique sensation. As if you travel exclusively through the mind of the person.
Probably some will think that this type of knowledge can be achieved in the traditional way. I would be inclined to believe that it is not.
We may all have more courage on the internet. We are all a little different, but that is not necessarily an inauthentic thing. Freed from emotions or standards that stand in the way of the message we want to convey.
Obviously the nature of a conversation can be lost. In this way we gain the authenticity of the intellect. The man on the internet shows his true being. He can think about the answers he gives. He can express himself anyway and he can express his true opinion.
Talking to the internet with someone, it may look like a trip.
Maybe a game of swimming at sea, you are blind because you do not see someone’s body. But you feel his soul at the highest intensity.
As for the danger that a foreign person may hide among sophisticated words, this is revealed in time. Those who have friends on the internet are looking for, above all, someone different from the people around them. Someone deep enough to understand them. Quite like them. A long-lasting friendship cannot be mimicked by a man with inhuman intentions.
The teens of the 21st century want to find even on the Internet a genuine friendship in this world driven by artificial relationships. An impostor, a man who wants evil, could not create the sense of security and understanding that we want to have.
Although the internet is a dangerous place, I believe in the power of my soul.
At first you are more reserved. You don’t know if the person writing to you is trustworthy. Then it becomes clear to you that a criminal might not have the interest to talk to you daily, to listen to all your problems. It’s just me, a teenager still inexperienced in life, but who can say yes. Yes, I have a friend on the internet who has been closer to me than anyone else, and whom I have met.
PS: No, he is not a criminal or a pedophile.
Author: Emilian Horea